The End of An Era


This is the current state of my mom’s backyard. Eleven years ago, my parents had a pool put in, a lot of memories were made back there. All 3 of my kids overcame their fear of water back there and most of the past few summer days have been spent in the pool or in that backyard. But, it’s time to make new memories.


The pool was my Dad’s pride and joy. He loved everything about it, down to cleaning it. It was most definitely his “thing.” Since he is gone, it’s become a source of nothing but pain and a money pit for my mom. A few weeks ago, when she was going to open it for the summer, she realized how much money it was going to be to open it because of everything new it needed this year and said enough is enough. The pool has to go.


This is how it looked on Friday and today it’s supposed to be completely filled in and grass seed layed on top. I’m not sure why, but this really doesn’t make me sad in the way I thought it would. It’s time to take my kids to new places this summer, make new memories and start moving forward with our lives. I mentioned in my last post that I have finally moved into the acceptance phase of my grief process and this pool closing is that last piece of closure I needed.

On our way home last night, we drove by a beach that almost everyone in our city spends the summer at and I got excited about spending summer days there as well.


I’m also excited about spending a majority of the summer at the sand dunes. My kids are growing up so fast and I’m excited for everything we can do this summer vacation. With my youngest being 4 years old and done with daily naps, we are no longer slaves to being home all afternoon, the days are ours to do what we want. I envision lazy days on beaches with picnic lunches, books and kids playing in the sand.


As one chapter of my life is ending, it’s time to make new memories and start writing a new chapter. I can’t even begin to tell you how free i feel lately, acceptance is a good and powerful thing.


2 thoughts on “The End of An Era

  1. I’m sorry for your pool loss…But you are right, on to bigger and better things!

    Isn’t “free” a good feeling? It makes me soul smile!

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